I remember saying three things to myself after I was taken hostage which somehow stood me in good stead.
No regrets – you haven’t done everything correctly, you’re bound to have made mistakes, but stick by what you’ve done.
No self pity – don’t begin to feel sorry for yourself, there are loads of people who are in worse situations than yourself.
And no over-sentimentality – don’t look back and say, “If only I’d spent more time with the family and had longer holidays – life has been lived, you cannot re-live it.
Terry Waite